Looks like I lost my daughter yet again, this time she is angry because she planned on riding to Memphis with me alone and my girlfriend is going with us. My daughter never said anything about wanting it to be just her and I. She never once told me that was her plan. Now she says that she isn’t my daughter any more.

                The trouble with this is that half of our communications consist of her saying things to hurt me. She is very passive aggressive. When she was younger I only had one or two weeks a year with her because her mother moved her about 2000 miles away from me. I didn’t have enough time with her to try and show her how destructive passive aggressive behavior can be. I didn’t have enough time with her to teach her proper communication skills. I really regret that because I think this sort of thing will follow her for a long time. It is almost certain to affect her future relationships, be it at work or with a spouse. It was my responsibility to help teach her but what could I do from 2000 miles away.

                I love my daughter very much but having her say hurtful things to me so often has made it so I cringe whenever I get a message or a phone call, I wonder what I’ve done this time to anger her. The last time she gave up on me she pushed my motorcycle over and broke the lights, there was about $170 worth of damage done, all because she was angry and she wanted things her way.

                I can’t say that it doesn’t hurt for her to write me off but maybe it will be a bit more pleasant not having to wonder when the next insult or obscenity will come.  

                I hope that someday she accepts responsibility for her own actions and she gets to take some communication classes or some anger management classes. Going through life angry will only cause her to be unhappy.  We all struggle with these things but once we learn to identify poor communication skills like passive aggressive behavior it is easier to work on the real issues. I see so much in her that I used to see in someone else so long ago. I wish I could have been a bigger influence in her life.