Watching a child's behaviors resume where they left off when the visitations stopped takes so much out of me. It hurts so bad to have to watch a passive loving child start hurting his sister and destroying things again. I knew it was going to be hard but this is taking so much out of me.  Mandy and I have only argued 2 times in about a year and a half, and even though our arguments can barely be considered arguments, tonight we had the third one.  We didn't say hurtful things we just expressed the fact that we were feeling bad over the situation but it is a sign that watching the children return to the pain is weighing on both of us.  I am afraid for a certain young man, I am afraid for all of us.